I See Dead People - Part 1

Part One of a Two-Part Series on my experiences as a Funeral Director and Embalmer.  This is an insider's look into what happens when a person dies. One of the reasons I wanted to do this series is that I wanted to let you know what happens behind the scenes and ways that you could save money when you have to arrange a funeral.

This episode will be of interest to many of you, as we are all aging. Sometimes we have to do things we don't want to do, especially if we have elderly family members, or even yourself with pre-arrangements.

I wanted to make that easier for you and give you some tips that will give you information that will be useful under those circumstances. Plus, it's just fascinating stuff !

For those who get grossed out easily, embalming stuff will be in Part 2, so no worries about this episode.

INTERVIEW - Officer Ron, Gay Prison Guard - Part 1

Sweeps Period 2019 begins with a fascinating Interview Show with Officer Ron Odion, a retired, Gay Prison Guard who worked in a State Penitentiary in Santa Fe, New Mexico for 24 years.

In a 3-part episode arc, Officer Ron gives us a glimpse into the true-life workings of a prison: the guards, the prisoners and the many facets of activities that make up the Correctional System. Officer Ron tells us of his experiences in the Training Academy and how he was treated, and tells us stories of what is was like to be a gay man in this testosterone-fueled climate.

Don't miss this fascinating look at an institution that most of us (thankfully) will never see on our own.

Can't I Just Be Happy, Is That So Much To Ask ?!

We all want to be happy. Yet for many, happiness seems to be elusive. Should we change our locations? Change our jobs? Search out better partners? In this look at elusive happiness, maybe the road map has been left behind.

** If you like and enjoy An Older Gay Guy Show, I
respectfully ask you to go to PodcastAwards.com and vote for this show
in the People's Choice, the Society-Culture and the LGBTQ podcast
categories. Thank You ! ** - July 31st is the deadline ! 

Gay Health 4 - Night Owls and Insomnia

Are you a Night Owl? Do you sleep unusual hours, tossing and turning? I discuss my own experience with being a 'Night Person', and how I am striving to correct that life-long habit.

** Please don't miss my LIVE Show this Saturday, June 22, 2019. There will be fun Vintage and Current TV Trivia where you can answer in a real-time Chat Room and the Main Topic will be 'Masturbation", Choking the Chicken, Beating Off, Spanking the Monkey, Fapping. We will discuss why you should masturbate and interesting listener stories of their masturbation. It will be loads of fun. (you can masturbate during the show LOL). Please join me LIVE from 3:00 pm- 4:00 pm Eastern US time. (12:00-1:00 pm West Coast). Tomorrow June 20, 2019 I will have a short (5 minutes or so) podcast telling you how to come to Pride48.com and join the FUN !!!  See you then !!!!! **

My Worst Date EVER !

I have a recorded version of my LIVE Valentine's Day Night Show, and I'm chopping it up to use for various upcoming episodes.

In this episode:

I tell you the story of my Worst Date EVER in 1981 on Valentine's Day itself.  This was when I was working as a Funeral Director and Embalmer, and that back-drop makes for a story that you won't soon forget!

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Vacationing Alone

Many of us older gay guys are single, and as we age, we might lose contact with friends through relocation, illness, death, arguments; a host of reasons. And that can lead to isolation and eventual depression. 

One of the ways that I have dealt with loneliness over the years, is that I learned how to travel by myself and enjoy the experiences many times more than if I had a traveling companion. Now traveling alone for some, is a very strange concept. Why would you want to be alone? Isn't the point of traveling to be able to enjoy the location, sights, dinners, memories etc. with someone else? Maybe. But what if you don't have a boyfriend/husband or friends that want to travel to some of the exotic places you always dreamed of going? Should you wait until you have a partner to travel with? (We aren't getting any younger!) Or, do we have to give up on ever going to those places?

I want to tell you about a few of my experiences with circling the globe alone and the self-sufficiency I learned along the way.

Regrets and Lessons

I found some news today that made me think about regrets and lessons in life, and I want to share some thoughts with you.

Please....don't miss my LIVE Interactive Show on Valentine's Day night, February 14, 2019. There will be LOTS of Vintage and Current TV Trivia, I will tell you an absolutely unforgettable story about a Valentine's Day date that I had, and there will be some time for questions and answers. An Older Gay Guy Show LIVE Interactive I HATE/LOVE VALENTINE'S DAY Show !!  There is info in the last few minutes of this episode. Please join me !!!!!

Being The Third Wheel

Don't you hate it when one of your closest friends, maybe even your BEST friend, gets into a relationship with a guy and suddenly you don't hear from him as often, or hang out with him as often? And then you find yourself being invited out with the new couple, and you become the dreaded '3rd wheel'. That sucks. Even worse, what if all your friends in your immediate social circle are in relationships and you are the only one left single? So when you go out, you are the.....11th wheel? 19th? How do you possibly navigate that?!?  Let's discuss !

Don't miss An Older Gay Guy Show LIVE Interactive Show, the 'I HATE/LOVE Valentine's Day Show' on Valentine's Day NIGHT, February 14, 2019 from 10:00 pm - 12 Midnight, Eastern Standard Time (7:00 - 9:00 pm West Coast, 12 noon - 2:00 pm on Friday in Australia)

More info on the LIVE Show will be coming next week.

Why Are Young Gay Guys Such Dickwads ?

The first episode of Season 4 comes via an email I received from a very nice gentleman in Australia. It has prompted a discussion on why young gay guys are so unkind and mean. As always, this is based on my opinions and my experience. I hope it can prompt some thoughts.

The Vintage TV Trivia Question of the week is a fun reflection on The Dick Van Dyke Show from the 1960's.

I am looking for guests for this season. If you feel you have a story to tell that relates to the older gay community, please contact me and let me know you'd like to come on. It is a pre-recorded interview that can be edited, so please have no fears about doing the show. It will be fun and relaxing. Contact me via: AnOlderGayGuyShow@gmail.com

INTERVIEW - The Latest in Cosmetic Work for Guys with Kris Venezia - Part Two

This year's Sweeps Period concludes with the 2nd Part of my conversation with Kris Venezia about what is new in the areas of cosmetic work available for guys.

This is not a suggestion or endorsement for you to run out and get cosmetic work, but for many older guys, especially those who have suffered from the effects of HIV and the powerful drugs that are taken to keep it at bay, this information is important. With some, it could even be life-saving, as the depression and isolation people often feel can take its toll on the psyche.

In this second half, we discuss Cool Sculpting, Gastric Bypass and Hair Pieces (and those in Hollywood that wear them!) So sit back and enjoy this insider's look at the world of cosmetic work.

** This Sunday, September 30, 2018, is International Podcast Day and will be the announcement of the Winners of the 13th Annual People's Choice Podcast Awards. I am Nominated for 2 Podcast Awards: The LGBTQ Podcast Award and the Mature Podcast Award. Please tune-in LIVE on Sunday at 8:00 pm Eastern Time (5:00 pm Pacific Time) for the Announcement of the Winners. Go to PodcastAwards.com to view the Awards LIVE. Thanks !!! **

Self-Doubt vs. Confidence - Impostor Syndrome

At the request of a listener from British Columbia, Canada regarding his self-doubt as he takes a new position running a sports team, we look at two self-esteem philosophies: The Peter Principle and Impostor Syndrome. Now while these theories can be viewed as a negative source of esteem, when coupled with a more applicable and positive method of coping with self-esteem that we talk about in the second half of today's episode, we can assess our self-doubt easier when looking at this subject from various points of view. The episode concludes with a basic tenant of success that we can all apply in times of indecision and uncertainty.

A Vintage TV Trivia Question is posed at the start of the show and the answer is given in the concluding minutes of the podcast.

Thanks so much for joining me today !

- Joey

Getting Outside Yourself

This serious episode is the second half of my series on Depression that started with the episode 'Depression: Emotional Eating'. Today I tell you about the serious danger that I was in due to depression after my parent's deaths. I discuss how my depression first surfaced, plans I had made to take my own life and treatment that I sought out to deal with my issues of grief.  But most importantly, I talk about revelations I had during this process that allowed me to view the world in a different way, that ultimately has brought me to the better place I am in these last 20 years or so.

This episode is my personal experiences and opinions. Do not view this as any kind of therapy or professional guidance. If you feel you are depressed or if you ever have suicidal thoughts, please seek out professional help. I have been able to overcome my grief and relationship issues only through professional therapy and prescribed medications. This show is only my personal opinions.

INTERVIEW - The Latest in Cosmetic Work for Guys with Kris Venezia - Part One

In today's Sweeps Period episode, I think everyone will find this fascinating. Kris Venezia (from 'The Almost Transition' episode) returns to discuss all the current treatments available for guys who wish to look their best as they age.

Even if you have no interest in having Cosmetic Work done, I think you will find it very interesting.

We talk about Kris' history of Cosmetic Work, we also discuss Fillers, Laser Hair and Spot Removal, Cool Sculpting, how to tell if you might need some Hairline Restoration, and we even touch upon Melania Trump and Ivanka Trump.

This is Part One of a Two Part episode due to the length of the interview. Part Two of this show will air in three weeks. I will do two other episodes first, for those not interested in this subject.

Enjoy!

- Joey

INTERVIEW - The Leather Community with Jay Menick

An Interview Show with Mr. Providence Eagle 2017, Jay Menick. Jay gives us insight into the Leather Community, it's clubs, contests and history.

If you have never been a participant in this side of the Gay Community, this episode will give you some surprises. Enjoy!

Tomorrow, Thursday August 9th, I will release a NEW Story Episode called 'Blond Shaggy-Haired Surfer Boy - My First Crush' in which I tell you all about my summers on a lake up North as a tribute to my father. And....I describe my crush's body in vivid detail from the memory of a voyeuristic prepubescent (that's me!), and I also tell you of some future plans that my Husband Paco and I have made.

Look for that episode to be on the air tomorrow at 6:00 pm EDT.

Thanks !!!!

- Joey

Coming Out Later In Life

An exploration of the issues and obstacles that gay men face when coming out when older.

A Vintage TV Trivia question is asked at the start of the show and the answer is given at the conclusion of the podcast.

Please vote for me in the Podcast Awards! (I really want to win!)

Listen back 5 episodes to the one called 'Podcast Awards, Please Help Me' for the details of how to vote. VOTING CLOSES ON TUESDAY, JULY 31st. So please don't wait !

Thank you so very much in advance for your considerations.

Relationship Honesty

This is kind of an addendum to several of previous episodes: Monogamy vs. Open Relationships / Gay Dating / Cruising / Bromance with an Ex / etc.

I'd like to hear your opinion on this episode. You can reach me at AnOlderGayGuyShow@gmail.com regarding this, or any subject.

Please vote for me for the 2018 PEOPLE'S CHOICE PODCAST AWARDS!

Go to PodcastAwards.com, go to 'Listener Nominations Now Open', fill out the short form, them go to the Nominations page. I am nominated in 3 categories: The Adam Curry People's Choice Award, The LGBTQ Award and the Mature Award.

Please vote for me in all 3 categories. You will find An Older Gay Guy Show in the drop-down menus.

And..... THANK YOU !

Monogamy vs. Open Relationships - Part 1

This is the 1st of 2 parts on a discussion about whether Monogamy is right for your relationship, or if you both prefer an Open Relationship.

A listener has shared his story with me and allowed me to share it with you. I also reference an article called, 'Open Relationships or Monogamy: How Gay Couples Can Decide What's Right For Them'.

If you have a life story to tell that you feel will be beneficial to this conversation, please feel free to send it to me at: AnOlderGayGuyShow@gmail.com

I would only use your first initial if I read the email in a broadcast.

Part 2 will be in a few weeks. Next week, there will be a different topic for the episode.

Can You Have A Bromance With An Ex ?

Can gay men have a friendship/bromance with an ex easier than a straight couple? Are you friends with any of your exes? I examine an article by author Jeremy Helligar as a prequel to the episode coming up titled 'Monogamy vs. Open Relationships'.

Don't miss the 'Golden Girls' Trivia Questions at the end of the podcast!

There is a new video on 'An Older Gay Guy Show' YouTube Channel that shows my first (and maybe last?) experience with Waxing My Nose Hair! The video also contains a workout segment and a talk about my frustrations of an aging body. (for Feet Lovers, the last segment has me barefoot with my feet closest to the camera!)

Nothing In The Dark

WARNING: If you are SENSITIVE regarding the topic of DEATH, or have had a particular trauma with the death of a loved one, PLEASE SKIP THIS EPISODE. Humor regarding death is within this show. But if you are curious about the Universe and are not bothered by discussing death in detail, please enjoy this trippy, intense, thought-provoking episode about the unknown. This is THE MOST BIZARRE episode I have ever done. Strap yourself down, get a glass of your favorite imbibement and go on this ethereal journey with me. It will be one that will make you laugh and send chills down your spine. Come on board!

Aging Angst

Two unbelievable things happened to me this week, and unfortunately, they ending up being related. Sit back and listen to a couple of stories that have taught me a most important lesson in life. Learn from my mistakes, please!

Why Can't I Find A Boyfriend??

Tired of endless dating and not finding the right one? Or, tired of not even getting any dates to see if they are the right one? I give you my part of my perspective on gay dating and finish with an important exercise that will give you insight into the potential reasons why you find it impossible to date a decent guy. I hope it gives you some things to think about!

What About Bob ?

I recently re-connected with my friend from high school, Bob. I reminisce about our teenage years and my 'seduction room'.

Gay Bears And Other Labels

A bit controversial, I discuss the various labels used in the gay community and consider whether some are welcome and good, or are all of them restrictive and insulting? Let's think about it. 

My Funny Phobia

I have the most embarrassing phobia that seems to attack me whenever the Universe is looking for a laugh. I hope you enjoy my story about my strange paranoia.

I end Season 2 with a silly, hopefully fun, kinda stupid tale of a conversation between friends.

Enjoy the remainder of your Summer, see you all in 3 weeks for the start of Season 3. PLEASE, SUBSCRIBE !!

Our Identity

Not sure if this was a good idea, but I purposely messed myself up a bit so I could have some fun. This won't be a regular thing, fear not. But I hope you get a laugh, or a nice memory from it. A more serious look at Our Identity will be on the YouTube Channel for this podcast. The Channel name is An Older Gay Guy Show.

♬Cause Breakin’ Up is Hard To Do ♬ - Part Two

My first 'buzzed' episode, as my husband Paco and I celebrated the first day of Summer out on our deck with some wine. LOL

In this episode, Part-Two of a Three-Part Series, I discuss an article about the most common relationship mistakes that gay guys make. These factors might be some of the reasons for break-ups that we have all experienced. I also request YOUR input for Part-Three of the Series that will be coming later in the Summer.

♬Cause Breakin’ Up is Hard To Do ♬ - Part One

Part One of a 3-part series about Gay Relationships and Break-Ups. In this first episode, I begin to tell you about my personal relationship experiences and then discuss an article called 'Gay and Can't Find a Partner?' that lists reasons why gay relationships might be doomed from the outset.

Part Two will conclude my personal story and will discuss an article called 'Top 7 Common Relationship Mistakes Gay Men Make'.

And in the newly planned Part Three, will be a discussion about listener's stories about break-ups and we will try to figure out how we move forward in our relationships in a healthy, satisfying way. (future episode- no date set)

INTERVIEW - The Almost Transition

An Interview Show featuring one of my closest friends who has had an extraordinary life. Kris shares interesting details of his early days as he prepared for his transition into a woman. He tells of surprising circumstances that led to a life-long quest for acceptance and to find his place in the LGBTQ community. It's a fascinating listen, and I hope you enjoy this first interview episode of An Older Gay Guy Show.

Gay Health 3- The Fear of Colonoscopies

A discussion about the importance of screening for colorectal cancer. If you are approaching age 50, it is imperative you have this important procedure. I had been petrified beyond belief about having a colonoscopy due to a previous test I had done more than 20 years ago. I discuss the early procedure as well as my personal experience with having a colonoscopy. I take you step-by-step through what happened, and I think if you have fear of this test (like so many do), please, please listen to this episode. It literally could save your life. Thank you!

Gay Health 2- Neuropathy

A discussion about Neuropathy, a common problem that develops with Diabetes, Advanced HIV, Lyme Disease, Shingles and many other ailments. While there is no cure, we look at current treatments for pain relief and management of the condition. Anyone over the age of 40 should listen to this episode, as it is becoming more prevalent due to excessive body weight in more and more adults.

Fear and Anxiety

As we age, it is not uncommon to have growing fear and anxiety about the future. In many cases, these emotions are not only related to health and finances but also to a sense of losing your connection to the LGBTQ+ community. In this episode, I tell you a bit more of my own history of fear and anxiety, and we look at an article that gives us '5 Ways to Overcome Fear and Anxiety'.

No One Alone

An important message about the Thanksgiving and Christmas Holidays, as well as all the religious celebrations around the world, inclusive of ALL religions. You are all important in this world.

The Funeral Surprise

Today I'm going to tell you one of the most unusual things that happened while I worked as a Funeral Director/Embalmer. I think you'll find this story entertaining and interesting. At the time, I couldn't believe it actually happened! Please join me for a unique mystery.

Self-Esteem As We Age

Have you ever felt that you are less attractive, less muscular than others? Have you felt that at your age all your chances at happiness have evaporated? I talk candidly about outward appearance and why sometimes the grass is actually greener on YOUR side of the fence.

Who Will Take Care Of Us ??

As we age, we all have concern about who will care for us when we are old. This is a discussion about some of the unknown details that might shock you, and I quote some articles that may offer some assistance in this very important factor as we move into our Senior years.

Expanding Horizons

Age is just a number, right? So maybe there are some dreams that we used to have when we were 'younger' that we kind of pushed back for someday in the future, or maybe we just gave up on those dreams altogether. But do we have to? We aren't dead (or at least in most cases, LOL), so......can we still make those dreams come true? I'm telling you about one of mine, how I'm going to do it, and I ask YOU to conjure up those forgotten dreams of your own. Maybe it isn't too late for any of us!

Pet Family

Us gays LOVE our pets! In this episode I tell you a
tale of what I consider to be the best thing I have done in my life. I
hope it inspires you, I hope it calls you to action, and I hope it
prompts you to give your pet family an extra hug tonight!

Gay Pride 1973

My history with Gay Pride Parades started with the 3rd Pride Parade that Boston ever had, back in 1973. This year is my return to those celebrations and I wanted to tell my story of why I haven't been to a Pride event in many years, and the strange introduction I had to gay life all those years ago.

How to Select a Gym

Have you ever wanted to join a Gym or Health Club but feel a bit intimidated, and since you are a beginner, you don't know what to even look for in a facility? Is it right for you? Will you feel out-of-place in that environment?

In this episode, I explain the inner workings of a health club and give you advice on what to ask, what to look for, and what to avoid. I go into great detail to explain what to expect. This is important information for both Men AND Women and I guide you through the process so that you will feel more confident and comfortable in your search for a gym that meets your specific needs and is right for YOU.

I Must Forgive

I share a story that I didn't think I would ever talk tell on a podcast. But having just had a birthday, I decided that I needed to tell this tale, and explain why I feel like a free man now.

This is not the typical episode of this show. But if you are a person who has struggled with the past, running a movie-like memory over and over again in your mind, this story might be of value to you.

This is a VERY personal account (all names have been changed) of a difficult time in my life, when as a teenager, my parents died. I talk about the one person in my life, that I might describe as someone that I 'Hated' for 43 years.

What Happened To Gay Bars??

Gay Bars are closing all over the country. Why? Is it the Internet? Drug use? Our older gay community is losing its structure. Let's discuss what Gay Bars and Gay Dance Clubs used to be, and what is happening now.

Gay Dating

Looking for a boyfriend but can't seem to get past a first date? Why doesn't it work out?  We look at some situations and suggestions on how to attract the right people.